CW: I am so proud of my brave little Daphne. He has wanted to be her since before last Halloween. He was too nervous last year. He had a few moments where he was worked up about people making fun of him, but mustered up the courage to go for it. He held his little orange wig high today.
Roxanne: so awesome!!! to hear his drum beat and have the nerve to dance to it!!! and YOU rock mom for giving him that confidence. “you can be who you want for halloween kid” says way more than the obvious. :) i JUST found MY drum beat the last few years….. i kept dancing to others and wondering why it didn’t feel authentic. :)
Michelle: Go lil Daphne! You rocked it! (you too, momma!)
Michelle: “He held his little orange wig high today.” lol
He was awesome. Yours being a boy and mine being a girl makes me glad we didn’t have to duke it out over who was cutest;)
Marnie : Awesome, awesome, awesome! So glad he had the confidence and that you and Jim enforced that confidence :) and the “He held his little orange wig high today”… love it! Yay B!
Frances: Good for him for being so brave!
Kim: love it!!!
Amy: LOVE!
Chrissy:he is so cute !!!
Candice: I love it!
I have some really great friends and family. Thank you!
I’m trying to decide if I want to post a little bit more about this. I’m on the fence if I should just let some things go or if I want to go into more detail. Do the two of you that read this have an opinion?
In case I do decide to leave it at this, let me say one more thing: for those of you that looked at my sweet boy in disdain this morning, or looked at me funny for “allowing” my son to be what he wanted to for Halloween, or made those snide and unnecessary comments- your lives are small, your tact is lacking, and you can SUCK IT!
Dear mother,
I’m a Brazilian student and I have to do a paper to my teacher about boys who likes to dress like girls. And I thought your atitute great. YOU ARE THE BEST MOTHER IN THE WORLD. Could you send a message to my e-mail ([email protected]) saying something about American literature to children who thinks different, like your brave boy?
There is great books which told about gender identity in literature for children and youth?
Which ones?
Could you recommend one in special?
Best whishes.
Cristiano Nascimento
Ok, this is a nice beginning but i’m going to take a look at that a tad more. Will show you exactly what else there is.
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You rock, Mom! Moms A, B and C have their heads up their rectums.
It’s true that nobody would say a word about a girl who dressed as Batman for Halloween today, but that wasn’t always so. When I was a girl, no so very long ago, they didn’t even let us wear pants to school. Lots of places and lots of jobs were not open to women. It took a wave of women pushing back to turn that tide.
I was the first girl in my community who took on some activities like classes in electricity and woodworking. And while I can remember one male instructor who simply made like I was invisible, I also remember other men who saw that happening and put it right.
We’ve done a lot since those days to give girls more liberty to live the lives they choose to live. Let’s do the same for the boys.
PS. He is sooooo cute in that costume!
Is name-calling something your momma taught you?
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That’s pretty gay right thurr
My son loves to dress up for Halloween. He’s 32 now. Yes, I help him. (My link is to a Squidoo page I made about his last costume - he was in the top 5 at a local nightclub’s costume contest.)
Your son was adorable. I’m sorry people treated you both that way.
Here’s one more vote of support for you and your darling child.
Sincerely,
Janelle the CCGAL
Just had to shout out to you that the pic of your boy is amazing and good for you for letting him be whatever he wants…
With a rockstar like you for a mom, he has a great future ahead of him! Ignore the haters!
Love from Seattle,
Sam
It is hard being a mom, isn’t it? You bring back memories of the dilemma of wanting to protect your child from this meanness and cultural narrowness vs. letting him walk into the fray with your guidance strengthening him and hoping it will be enough. An impossible situation. I wonder what you would have done about the costume if you had realized the reaction he would get?
Be mad, mom. It is a crazy, bigoted world and we have to stand up and say so. I eventually took my son out of one school. Was it the right decision?
Hurray for you Mom! What did you really teach your son? You taught him not only with your words but your actions. You taught him to follow his dreams and not give his power away to the nay sayers. He learned that there are people in the world who think themselves as all knowing. He learned that there will always be some people who will not agree with him. He learned that there will always be people so cruel that they would even judge a child or ridicule the mother in front of the child. You taught him how to stand strong in being himself, in following his passion, not letting others dictate their beliefs, and you showed him how to do all this with grace. How many of us hold back from what we really want because we are insecure? How many of us live by the statement” what the neighbors will say?” Your little boy still wore his costume and rocked it!! Your little boy learned that his mother is a woman to be so proud of because she believed in him even when he was just a little boy, and that she stood up to bullies and walked away with class! Well done Mom!
I just want to say that I used to be a mom who would tell her son ‘you can’t have that because it is for girls’ but after reading this it has opened my mind to how things should be. How I should be towards my son. Thank you for posting this!!
My cousin posted your blog post on his FB page to share with all of us, and we all loved it. You’re an awesome mother of an awesome little kid. My nephew, who is now a strapping 6 foot 2 inch 22 year old who rivals the Marlboro Man in machismo…that same nephew used to cart around a little red plastic purse and demand lipstick when we were leaving the house. Said boy also wore hot pink high tops and purple leggings joyously. SO WHAT!! You do what your child wants/needs to be happy. Does it mean he’s gay? No. If he is? SO??? Your post has been forwarded all over my family’s FB pages and we all agree..the purple cardigan is the icing on the cake, perfection! Again..awesome mom…awesome kid. Keep posting.
Ur son is AWESOME! let him know i said that .
You are awesome to love and support your son so! He is so lucky to have a Mom that loves him as he is. Unfortunalty so many people join churches for the sole reason as it gives them an excuse to look down on others. Most who say they are Christians would reject Christ and everything he stood for if he walked the earth today.
My 6 yo son just stopped dressing up in “girl” costumes. His 12 yo sister wore the fancy dresses, and he wanted to wear them also. Why not? That’s how you dress up. Thank you for not getting all freaked out about it. Let Boo be a kid and have fun.
It’s great to see a mother let a kid be a kid. I have all boys at home and when they were younger, they loved putting on my high heals and walking around the house. They are older now and them wearing my heals when they were 3,4 and 5 did not sway thier sexual orientation (we have girlfriends). Girl stuff is so much funner for younger kids anyways.
People who criticize, especially a christian person, should be ashamed of themselves. God creates everyone to be who they are and only he knows the true path in which each person will follow, so they should stop judging because they have no right to judge.
Kudos to you for standing up for what you believe in and letting your child be a child. A mother who shows thier child unconditional love will be most remembered when that child becomes an adult, not what they got to dress up in for Halloween when they were 5.
I love that you let your son wear what he wants for Halloween. I was saddened one day in Target when a little girl, about 4 asked her mom for Spiderman Sunglasses and her mom said No, those are for boys. I was too chicken to say something but I should have, the little girl didn’t want the pink ones she wanted the blue ones and her mom wouldn’t let her have them.
When I have kids they can wear whatever they want. Who cares as long as they are happy and healthy!!!
Don’t let people make you feel otherwise, they are the ones with issues.
Your child will be how you have brought him up. And this is how he will remember you. Do not encourage his cross dressing. This is not normal.
Yeah — Boo will remember how much his mom loves him, and is a REAL momma grizzly when it comes to protecting and defending him.
It’s not cross-dressing — it’s a costume.
Now, had he wanted to be Cher or Liza, I might feel (only slightly) differently.
Dear mom, THANK YOU! These days adults only wish their parents were like you! Accepting and loving. And all you “christian haters” the fiRST
Finally I was able to read your post. I saw it on Freshly Pressed on WordPress first, I clicked to read it but the cursor just sat there—spinning, then I read about it on just about every blog on the planet! You are an amazing mom! I just want you that. Forget those ignorant people who call you and your son names. Your job as a mother is to support your son. To love your son…unconditionally. Too bad for those mothers who don’t understand that.
It’s funny you mentioned the frat boys dressing up as girls. My husband once dressed as Tina Turner…in fish net stockings! Bless you.
Just have to say it one more time - you are a wack-job and I hope you know it…