A wrap up of our Summer highlights:
- Moon Marble with Goldilocks and her shorties
- Burr Oaks Woods with MOPS mamas
- Pool party with MOPS mamas
- Kansas City Zoo a couple of times
- neighborhood pool a few times
- Movies with Goldilocks and shorties
- Science City and lunch at Crown Center with CPA and shorties
- Kemper Art Museum with HS BFF
- Field Day - consisted of sidewalk chalk, bubbles, water balloons, sprinklers, etc
- Paradise Park
- Nelson Atkins with family to see new Egyptian exhibit
- Dinosaurs Unearthed and picnic at Liberty Memorial with Goldilocks and shorties
- Poppy’s Ice Cream
- Painting
- Worlds of Fun
- Oklahoma
- Max Strom Workshop at the Yoga Gallery
- Ladies’ Night Out with MOPS mamas
- Waterfall Park with MOPS mamas and shorties
- 2 day trips to Columbia, MO
- Clifford exhibit and lunch/fountains at Crown Center with MOPS mamas
- Took Boo to see Lucky Duck at the Coterie Theater
- Wizards game with Peanut
- Scout Mamas’ Night Out
- Bought new living room furniture
- Had a bestie from high school (Esperanza High School, Anaheim, CA Class of ’93) come visit for a weekend from Washington, DC
- Taught 8 sessions at a seminar about teaching yoga to preschoolers
- signed Squirt up for a shortened version of preschool
- family trip to Tablerock Lake for Labor Day weekend
- family night at the drive-in
- a couple of Royals games
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I stopped reading b/c I got tired of wading through the hatred spewed by A… so maybe someone else already suggested this-can you block him. He clearly has no interest in a real conversation, an open discussion, and is detracting from the possibility of that.
I was touched by your story and also saddened by your 5-yr olds fear of being made fun of, and oh, those mothers! all the best.
Love your blog! I agree with previous post, I wish I were better at documenting my son’s childhood. I’m the “giant file of pictures that stlil need to be printed, sorted and scrapbooked” kind of mom. Someday, someday. Btw what is with these strange men trolling the comment thread? “Ace” “Andy” They are probably the same creepy, unemployed 40 yr old trying to get a rise out of a blog for PARENTS. Go back to Wierdoland where you came from! The rest of us are enjoying our all-too-precious free time just fine without your baseless comments crowding the screen.
“”"If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then ok. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person.”"”
I’m not a mother yet, but hopefully one day I will be like you!
Love and blessings to you and your family, specially little Daphene!
Howdy fellow Kansas Citian. Found you through your recent halloween post and noticed from this one that your are from KC too :) Good luck with your blog - I’ll be following you!
Thanks for the great note! It’s always good to hear some parents who are in similiar situation. I have a 4 yr old little boy who is fasinated with all that is mermaids, fairies, barbies, dora…or long hair related. He wanted to be a princess with wings, we conprimised and he was Buzz Lightyear because I found a wing pack he could wear (not that I’d of cared, but I have to walk the fine line of keeping my husband and son happy…and daddy would not have gone trick or treating w/us if I had let him be a full out princess). I did however buy him a dress he wanted for his birthday…we just don’t put it on when his dad’s around. From my research, between the ages of 3-6 it’s pretty common for boys to like girls things (and vice versa) and that it doesn’t have any direct correlation to their future choices…so maybe they are, maybe they aren’t…right now they are just learning about their world and we should all encourage this. Thanks again!!
Just thought I would check back in an try to see if anything has changed….. Nope shes still a shitty parent.
What gives you the right to say she is a shitty parent… are you better than her??? Are you even a parent?? As a mother of 3 daughters who all play with cars, tools, and several other “boy” toys, it is okay to allow your child to pretend at the age of 5… Why would you want to stifel a childs imagination.. So rock on mamma… let that boys creativty run loose…
You are a great Mom!
Cute Daphine costume. Cute kid.
You’re a wonderful mother! THANK YOU for sharing your experiences with us. I had a good friend who was a cross-dresser all of his life (he kind of “came out” after he retired). It was his friendship I treasured, not his gender. I actually admired him for at last being who he had always wanted to be. I never completely understood it, but I didn’t have to. I just enjoyed a warm friendship with him/her.
I am a grandmother of 3, and a mom of 3. I left religion behind long ago, because I believe it often fosters suspicion and rejection. If I could ever find one that truly fostered love and acceptance for all, I might reconsider. Meanwhile, I am enjoying peace, and making the most of the life I’ve been blessed to live.
Clearly Andy has nothing better to do than post endlessly on here - so what does that say about him? This is the link to his FB page, btw, if anyone wants to tell him what they think of him. It’s easy to be a coward and post hatred anonymously - now let’s see what he says when people see who he is.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=logo#!/profile.php?id=1537186454
Wow! He even LOOKS like a douchebag!
Andy, I think you’ve got some self- exploration and self-forgiveness to work through. but you’ll get there (Life may surprise you). In the meantime, don’t pick on 5 yr-olds or thier moms. This is a tough world full of mean/scared people but with moms and kids like this we just might make have a chance at making it a better one.
Andy, I think you’ve got some self-exploration and self- forgiveness to work through but you’ll get there. Life may surprise you. In the meantime, don’t pick on 5 yr olds or their moms. This is a tough world full of mean/scared people but with moms and kids like this we may just make it into a better one.
Had a bestie from high school (Esperanza High School, Anaheim, CA Class of ’93) come visit for a weekend from Washington, DC
This explains a lot. She is a liberal from California. I wish that a 10.0 would hit that place so it slides off into the pacific. Oh and he’s still gay for dressing like a girl.
You’re gay for being so threatened by it. Come out of the closet already!
LOL - full agreement on the wackjob mom!
Yup, all those holier-than-thou morons can suck it! That’s the spirit. It got me thinking about my childhood and how i wish my mother and father were strong enough to be supportive of everything i wanted to do (like have barbies and baking/sewing stuff) instead of being weak and selfish, falling back on excuses of what others would think. I had to be the strong one and hold everyone up. Guess, i had to be my own parent in a way; which did make me very strong-willed but the child inside still hungers for acceptance. Thank you for being strong enough to let your son be who he is, regardless of anyone who wishes anything contrary of that.
Andy is just sad that his parents hated him for being gay.
Andy is sad for your parents because you are a pole smoker.
God hates you more Andy — He’s been watching you all day and he’s not happy with you spreading hate in His name. Good luck with that.
Andy, and other people like him, have obviously not lost a son, or brother. When that pain hits you, you don’t care what they were - you just love.
Actually I lost a brother and a friend in the desert during the war, you know something that real men do. Little fags that wear wigs and dresses need not apply. I know its not quite the same to lose a brother or son to aids but that just natures way of weeding out the undesirables.
I’m sure you’ll be weeded out any day now, dick.
Yes Andy real men do go to the desert, which is were I am sitting now.
Another thing real men do?
Not pick on 5 year olds. So what does that make you?
If he has the courage to be who he is, who the hell are you in your terrified little world to say he is wrong?
That’s the entire point. He didn’t want to do it by showing some reservations and she pushed him to do it anyway.
Funny, in that picture he doesn’t appear to be suffering or anything other than happy.
i was in the navy, and i am a women. i think gender or how “REAL” your gender is (eg, what “real” men do) need not apply.
Yes, clearly calling a child a “little fag” is something that a “real man” would do. You would think a real man’s man would having something better to do with his time than make rude, ignorant, and uncalled for comments about a child.
Its comments like this that make ppl across the world wary of the US and its inhabitants….most of us are sensible enough to know that one persons views dont equal a whole nation, but Andy’s world view is just so skewed that he has enough hate and bile to shake that belief…almost…Andy thinks its relevant to bring HIV into the equation, although Im not sure exactly how that relates to a 5 year old’s costume choice, but he thinks it is, which says something..and then thinks its ok to marginalise everyone, male/female/gay/straight that have ever died from HIV/AIDS as effectively ‘getting what they deserve’. In other words Andy thinks that he is right, and everyone else deserves what they get….I wonder if he would say the same about say…cancer…not that cancer has anything to do with a 5 year olds choice of costume either…yes the pic on his FB makes him look a bit….odd really..which is appropriate..
I’m glad to see the horrid heterosexist response…. keeps us from getting too complacent.
Don’t forget to add turning your son into a faggot.
Andy, truly an idiotic comment to make…we should embrace individuality, expression and promote tolerance at every opportunity. Showing bigotry shames only you.
You are absolutely ridiculous!! Mean little troll!!!
Everything about a fag is fundamentally wrong. She crippled this kid for life. Now he thinks that no matter what he does that he will be accepted. Good job Mom of the Year.
If only we all had your sort of free time, to harass innocent children and mothers on their blogs!
Your mother is sure to be real proud of you, congrats!
If you divide this world into “faggots” and “people like you,” I’d rather be a “faggot.” Just as long as I stayed away from you and other people like you.
He’ll certainly turn out better than the little (likely closeted and conflicted) troll that you are…
Just because he wants to dress as a girl does not mean he’s gay. Even if he turns out to be - who cares? Everyone is human and deserves to be loved. Apart from maybe those who are so full of hate and prejudice they feel the need to pick on a five year old boy. I really hope you don’t have children, no one should have your sort of negativity forced upon them. I hope you get better soon.
Man, you are a right-wing, narrow-mided, marrow-sucking idiot. I wish I could give you a more intellectual response here, but you are so clearly not deserving of the brain energy that I can’t muster it. In what decade do you live, sir, that “faggot” is an acceptable term? Additionally, what kind of dark cloud exists in your soul that this comment was, somehow, deemed acceptable in your pea-brained, right-wing, ignorant reptilian brain? Please crawl back under your rock and pay the rest of the thinking world no mind; clearly the magic of the inter-webs must scare your overtaxed Aryan mind.
This guy doesn’t deserve all of your responses. P.S. You do not have to be right-winged to be narrow minded. I am pretty conservative, but accept all people and views. If my son were gay, I would be happy as long as he is happy. Unfortunately, there are people like “Andy” in this world that he will have to ignore, because they are only trying to overcompensate for a small d#*k and brain.
Thank you for two excellent points, Nikki. I am also conservative and I find that most of the fiscal/political conservatives I know could care less about issues like sexual orientation. I certainly don’t. It helps to remember that radicals on EITHER side do not, as a general rule, represent the majority.
Oh Andy, you need to go back to school: This is “Summer Fun”, and clearly a Halloween Costume in October was “Fall Fun”… they teach that when kids are five… so apparently besides not teaching appropriate language, and tolerance for Halloween costumes, as well as learning that “wearing girl cartoon character costume for one year’s Halloween doesn’t a homosexual make”, you missed the lesson on seasons of the year. And there are only four, which is simpler than the myriad of ways children can turn out. BTW we have no idea Boo’s sexual preference.
Wow, Andy, your own Mom must be proud of your language! I’m guessing you aren’t a looker either.
@ Andy - you’ve got to have a very estranging pedophilic mindset - to even start to talk about the sexual orientation of any 5 year old.
She opened the door to the closet.
Sounds like that’s where we’ll find you. Come out into the light!
By the way Andy, real men don’t harass five year olds and their mothers. If you want to be a man, go do something productive with your time and protect the people around you. The world’s got enough hate in it without nasty people like you trying to make everything worse. If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep your trap shut.
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no she didn’t. but even if she did, that would clearly be a better outcome than turning out like you.
Wow, what a busy summer! I bet your son had so much fun that he didn’t even realize he was learning along the way!
I just had a thought. Don’t feel pressured to meet the expectations of others, your blog went viral because you wrote from the heart. Just keep being you, I imagine I’m not the only one that will stick around to read it that way. =D
Found your blog through my friend Molly on FB. Fell in love with your story about your son….I am so inspired by him as well as you! Then I start to read and realize you are from KC metro area too! I am a fan of your blog for sure now..LOL.
Hi,
Really brave and sturdy how you stood up to those moms. My four-year-old son wants to be a girl. He actually wants to be a girl.
Now the moms at my children’ s school (also a christian school) mostly have questions and some of them are indeed looking at him in horror of him being gay.
I honostly do not know how I will react to that when and if the time comes of him coming out, but I sure hope I will accept that fact. My love for him will never grow less, probably even stronger.
Thank you for posting this blog!
I am a grown woman with 3 beautiful daughters. From the time I was born, I was a tomboy through and through. My mom tells me stories about how she had to fight me at age 3 to get a dress on me. All I wanted to wear were pants and t-shirts. I remember ALWAYS wanting to be a boy. They had the most fun, they could go out and play and ruff and tumble, and no one cared. The boys got to do anything, play all the fun sports. My parents NEVER discouraged me from being who I was. I was made fun of, I was teased, I was kicked out of the girls bathrooms because I looked like a boy. It didn’t change anything. When I became a teenager and started dating, that’s when I started to enjoy the girly things in life. I am happily married to the man of my dreams and I am still a tomboy through and through. My daughters grew up very girly and I have learned to appreciate all the different shades of pink through them. I encourage them to be a good person, love themselves, and become strong wonderful women when they grow up. There are so many horrible stigmas placed on society, it makes me so sad. Have faith in youself as strong parent who loves your child no matter what, they will grow up with that strength.
I love you blog! I am a new follower after your post about your son’s Halloween Costume! I share in your mission and beliefs on how you are raising your 5 year old, I am raising mine the same. Thank you!!
I’m a Sookie Stackhouse series/True Blood lover from KC too. Viva!
I love the Nelson Atkins…I lived in Westport for about 4 years…
I found your site because a friend sent me your wonderful, insightful and brave post about your son’s Halloween costume and then I started poking around. It turns out you now live near my old neck of the woods! I grew up in the subdivision right next to Burr Oaks and my summer highlights always included many of the things above. I am in Chicago now and your list makes me nostalgic and wistful. I’m glad to know there are great parents like you still making KC a great place to grow up. My parents never bought into a lot of the BS that many people outside the state seem to think is a constant in Missouri. Thanks for being such a great representative of my home state and keep your chin up when others around are being negative. You’ve got some lucky kids!
I just wanted to let you know that these posts brought a smile to my face. You are a great mom for giving him the courage and support to be who he wants to be. He wasn’t the only courageous one that day, you were too. We all know how hard it is to go against the so called “norm.” He is such an amazing child and you are such an amazing mom! He is going to grow up to be a such a strong man inside and out! You two ROCK!
Wow. That was a great blog. Thank you for your stand, and for not backing down in the face of bigotry. It’s not easy to do, when you want to “get along” in your kids’ school, but you stood by your son. Plus, what the hell? Kids like to dress up!
You’re a cool mom.
I just read and commented on your most recent post, thinking “Man… I love this mom. I wish I knew her!” Then I read this post and am maybe guessing that you are from Kansas City? Which is where I am from! So maybe we can know each other. Would love to meet a tell it like it is and confident kid builder mom like you!
I love reading your posts. i wish I was better at documenting my kiddo’s life…